I am always interested in learning and passing on what successful people did to get where they are.
However, in many ways, it’s also what they don’t do.
They don’t give their power to someone else.
Even if you are extremely motivated to do it, you likely have habits and people built into your life that will test you.
That could mean your happiness, results, value, or anything else.
If you want complete power over your life, you have to be able to stand on your own.
I had a father figure say to me often, “when the voices on the inside are louder than the voices on the outside, you will move toward what you really want.”
Paralysis for any reason is keeping you from learning and moving forward.
It’s usually just fear of failure showing up in another form.
Until you take action and try something, you don’t know how it works or if it works.
Only then, can you adjust it and make it better.
Action trumps planning after you get to a certain point.
Done is better than perfect.
It doesn’t mean that what someone did was ok, it’s letting go so you can heal and move forward.
You also have to forgive yourself.
If you hold a lot of shame and guilt, write down everything you have never forgiven yourself for.
Do this over a week period so you have time to think about it.
Then burn or destroy that list.
Make a ritual out of letting it go.
No matter what you have done, you can still be successful.
This one can be subtle so be very careful.
You and I have control over what we think, say, and do.
Use language that shows this when talking to yourself and others.
Say things like, “I choose, I do, or I love…
Saying things like I need to do this, or I have to do this tells yourself and others that you are not making a choice.
We know that if you don’t go to work, you will not have the money to pay rent.
However, it’s all still a choice you are making.
You can control what you think, say, and do.
Embrace that and use it to propel you to the life you want.
Do everything you can to move things your way and your direction.
However, remember that there are things outside your control.
I have learned that swift acceptance is the key to move me through at as quickly as possible.
If you don’t want to do it this month, don’t say yes to it for next month.
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