The Biggest Obstacle to Success
Does fear keep you from what you want?
The short answer is yes even if you disagree with me right now.
It keeps me from a more fulfilling life as well.
I wish I had no fear, but in all honesty, I understand it is there and I push every day to get past it.
Now, if you’re sitting there saying that you don’t have any fear, then great, what is holding you back from what you want?
When the facades and fake shells come off, it always comes back to fear.
I had a great job that I didn’t mind the work so much, what I hated was how much time it took from my life.
I knew that I was aging and my life was passing away before my eyes and I was not living the life I wanted.
So, why would I live like that?
What would I do instead?
What if it didn’t work out?
What would people say?
How would I live?
What about everything I worked for?
I left that job less than a year ago and none of my fears have come to fruition.
Am I lucky?
Let’s look at the process it takes to break away from a job and do what you really want.
First of all, what do you want?
Do you even know?
Most people I talk to cannot even answer that question with much certainty.
They will tell me what they don’t want only.
Do you want to watch Netflix and drink beer every night after your job?
Then, why are you reading this?
Go watch the Ted Bundy documentary or whatever is new on there now.
Let me tell you how I overcame the fear of starting a business, and living the life I live now that I absolutely love.
The first thing to do is figure out what you want.
If it’s vague, then what do you like to do?
For me, it is definitely new experiences and traveling the world.
All I did is look at what it looked like if I never made it.
What does it look like if I can’t pay my bills and I have to declare bankruptcy?
What if everyone sees that I’m a failure?
What happens that day? The Next day? A month later? A year later?
What if my wife leaves me because she’s tired of it?
What happens if I succeed?
What if I do nothing?
What are the potential upsides and downsides in all scenarios?
These are important questions to ask yourself.
The reason is that, even failure does not look that bad later on.
I could move in with family and get welfare money to eat.
That’s like the worst case for me.
That doesn’t even seem that bad.
But guess what, the worst case never happened!
I became a success and I made everything work!
Most likely if you are horrible, you will figure it out or land somewhere in the middle of what you wanted and your worst fears (which aren’t even that bad).
The fear of failure is unfounded because you will learn what you need to do to succeed on the way and adjust your course until you make it work.
The worst scenario for me when I carried everything out to what could happen was where I was going to end up if I did nothing.
There was no real good outcome and I hated where I was at.
Now, I’m traveling pretty consistently and living the life I always dreamed of.
As I write this, I’m literally about to get packed for a weeklong trip to Hawaii tomorrow.
It’s better than I imagined and my only regret is not starting sooner.
So, whatever your reason for not following your dreams, realize that it always goes back to fear.
Also, realize that most of your fears are unfounded and not that bad if you carry out the absolute worst-case scenario.
Finally, the upside could be better than you ever realized or imagined.
Go for it!
One last thing, Faith and Fear cannot exist in the same mind.
They are diametrically opposed concepts.
So, think wisely.
Thank you for reading.